Islamic ordinances are directed to human beings, not angels. And human beings have weaknesses and faults, whims and desires, needs and emotions, so absolute freedom for all is neither desirable nor possible. The scheme of Allah is one which enables His righteous and obedient servants, in spite of their human imperfections, to achieve a good measure of peace and harmony in mutual relationships while strengthening family ties and fulfilling their obligations to society and to their Lord. Thus, through continued awareness of Allah and obedience to Him, they become worshippers in everything they do, say or intend.
Marriage rulings, like those pertaining to every aspect of life, are derived from the Qur’an and Sunnah of the Prophet (PBUH). Allah (SWT) has said:
(Surah an-Nur 24:32)
How it should be done is outlined in the Sunnah, just as it was the Prophet’s role to teach and demonstrate the correct method of prayer which was ordered in the Qur’an. The system, being divinely ordained, must necessarily result in the best outcome for individuals and society alike when applied conscientiously. For the believer there can be no comparison between divine and manmade systems, i.e., the customs of the family or tribe, the traditions of society, or the new trends introduced by peoples ignorant or even abusive of Islamic ideals and values. Pointing to the inferiority of human judgment, Allah said:
(Surah al-Ma idah, 5:50)
And He (SWT) has stated certain facts in the Qur’an for the benefit of believers, among them:
(Surah al-An am 6:116)
(Surah al-An am 6:119)